PREGNANCY LOSS

 Practicing as a gynaecologist I experience numerous challenges from day to day. Tackling difficult deliveries in labour ward, dealing with acute haemorrhage in Caesarean section, and breaking bad news to patients about a cancer diagnosis or a pregnancy loss. The emotional impact can vary widely depending on factors such as the stage of pregnancy, personal circumstances, cultural and religious beliefs, and previous experiences with pregnancy.

Many people experience profound grief and a sense of loss following a miscarriage or stillbirth. This loss can be compounded by the hopes, dreams, and expectations they had for the pregnancy and the future of their family. It's normal to feel sadness and even depression after a pregnancy loss. Some people may struggle with feelings of emptiness, despair, or a sense of failure.

Individuals may blame themselves or feel guilty about the loss, even though pregnancy loss is often beyond anyone's control. This guilt can be especially common among women who may wonder if they did something to cause the miscarriage or stillbirth. Pregnancy loss can create significant anxiety and fear about future pregnancies. Individuals may worry about experiencing another loss or struggle with feelings of anxiety during subsequent pregnancies.

My first-trimester pregnancy loss caused great emotional trauma for me and my husband. We had been trying for almost a year and had already announced the pregnancy and later had to break the bad news to everyone. The worst part was getting back to work and dealing with a lot of pregnant women every day. The support from my husband, family, and work colleagues helped me recover.

Three months after the miscarriage I was not on any birth control and wondered why I hadn’t seen my period yet. The pregnancy test was positive and I didn’t dare to do an ultrasound! I discovered that I was 11 weeks pregnant and it turned out to be an uneventful pregnancy and I gave birth to a happy and healthy baby girl!

 




 

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